When you really get into the nitty gritty of it, what we’re actually doing when we send our kids to their room and into time outs, or away from the dinner table, is withholding affection and connection. In order for that to truly modify the behavior, they must crave that connection enough to do whatever it takes to have it back. There has to be depravation of it. It’s a bit heartbreaking when you think of it that way.