I quit cold turkey. I started by apologizing to my kids and told them I wasn’t going to punish them anymore. That we were going to work through everything together. No more time outs and no more losing things that belong to you as punishment. If it sounds too radical, think about how many times you have put your child in time out and ask yourself, “Is this effective?” And what is the lesson? If you act out of sorts, you need to be isolated. You are unlovable and unwanted.